Jeroninio ‘Jerry’ Almeida, author of the best-selling book series Karma Kurry addresses and works with over 2,50,000 people every year in his capacity as a life coach, leadership trainer, inspirational orator and story-teller. Through his interactions with several people from all walks of life and from different sectors and strata of society, he has found that 90% of the world does not “feel alive”. He gives us 10 tips to help each one of us rekindle our inner fire in 2016.
1. Seize the day!
Most people around the world wake up and start running because the race has begun with yet another day of a routine existence. I say NO. Take a moment when you wake up. That moment should be the highest, happiest point of each day. Be grateful that you have woken up today, because many did not wake up today. Just this simple thought will change the energy of your day. The very fact that you are alive today is occasion to rejoice and celebrate your life. Take life as it comes positively one day at a time, with the simple thought “How can I get better than I was yesterday?” Try it! This simple idea for action will enable you to unleash your potential every day.
2. Unleash your potential every day.
Principles: Rejuvenation and continuous improvement
I always tell people that perfection is a myth because the day we are perfect is the day we are in the box. If you are not in the box, you need to continuously improve for the better and strive for excellence. This is the miracle within us. We can constantly improve our game by acting upon change, rather than waiting for change to act upon us. We need to believe in ourselves and become better today to be more, learn more, do more and contribute more to the lives of others.
3. Live a life of purpose as a purpose of life.
Imagine if each of us over the years and centuries had thought and acted upon one question “How can I leave the world better than when I came into it?” Today we would have a world that is not broken and future generations would have an even better world. We must start doing this because our children and future generations will also live in the same world. Hence, making a positive contribution towards a better world is not selfless but selfish as it serves our own children too.
4. Ask yourself: Who am I?
Whenever I ask people this question, most do not know the answer. This one question makes up a multibillion dollar industry and is the sole reason why the world has so many gurus and ashrams. And like I always joke, if any of these gurus can tell you who you are, be very careful as they are misleading you. There is only one guru in the world who can tell you who you are and that guru is YOU! Take 10 minutes every day and 30 minutes every week to understand your most important roles and responsibilities. Besides being someone’s child, parent, sibling or spouse, we also need to fulfil our roles and responsibilities as citizens and human beings.
5. Create SMART goals.
Whenever I ask people if they have a vision and purpose of life, most say NO. Vision and purpose give us direction and help us understand where we want to go in our lifetime. The problem with most of us is that we are running very fast without knowing where we are going. The day we discover our purpose, we know what we need to do in our life and that sets us on the path of self actualization to realise our goals. Goals must be SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound. If goals are not SMART, they are daydreams or hallucinations that could lead to negativity. Set goals that are based on your responsibilities in each of your most important roles. Once you have set your vision and goals, you will be amazed at how your mind finds the resources to make them come true. If you can dream it, you can do it.
6. Be happy with what you have.
All we want is everything. We want more in our lives without understanding our needs and thus end up running in the wrong direction and living other people’s lives. We must map our needs and create our own desires rather than desiring what is advertised or what our neighbours have. A lot of people mistake their materialistic possessions for happiness. Happiness is never in materialistic things, but comes from within. If we do not understand what makes our hearts and lives content and map our needs then we will always be miserable, always desiring more and wanting more. This is dysfunctional because we fail to enjoy the present and what we have.
7. Learn from suffering and adversity.
There is not a single person in the world who is bereft of suffering and adversity. Each person has his or her share of suffering and pain and we all break at some point or the other. When this happens, most people break down but only a few break through. That is passion. Passion finds its origin in the Latin word “pati”, which means suffering. If we are not ready to suffer for someone or something, then we are not passionate about it. Hence the saying ‘No Pain, No Gain’. If you are really passionate about your life, your work or your relationships, then you are ready to suffer and struggle to make them work and will go through the mill to find a way to make things happen. Suffering and pain are essential in life and we as humans are gifted in that even in our most depressing moments, we can be positive by simply thinking about the highest points of our life. Try this! Close your eyes and think of a high point in your life and you will notice your spirit soaring.
8. Trust and respect the self and create a positive aura around you.
A lot of people in the world lack trust and self-respect. One can only respect others when one respects oneself. When we do not respect ourselves, we end up doing things that are wrong, dishonest and harmful towards the self and others. When one has robust self-respect, one always does right and treats the self and others with dignity. Dignity, respect and trust are priceless and no money or power in the world can buy them. One has to earn it and inspire it and can get it only by doing right. Once we trust and respect the self and have our own dignity, no external force can create any negativity for us because we become strong and robust inside-out.
9. Learn to be light-hearted!
The problem with a lot of people is that they lack a sense of humour. They take life too seriously and never see the lighter side of life. There is an old saying, “Do not take life too seriously, you will never get out of it alive anyway”. While it is important to have a purpose and vision of life, we must learn to take things in our day to day life with a grain of humour and a pinch of salt. We must learn to laugh at ourselves, we must learn to make light of day to day situations and we must understand that every human being has their own pain and suffering, just like us. We must learn to connect with people and have a few light-hearted moments.
10. Be kind to yourself and to others.
One of the biggest concerns that most people have is the bitterness and resentment they hold within them. People have just not learnt how to let go, forgive and let be. Most take their bitterness and resentment to their graves without realising that it never even affected the other person and only poisoned their own life. We must learn to forgive and let go. We must learn to be kind to ourselves and compassionate with others for all the resentment and bitterness that they hold within them. We must enable them to let go as well and help them get free of all the resentment that is poisoning them. This in turn will create a lot of positivity within us to help us battle the negativity on the outside. We are surrounded by negative news, negative people, negative situations and a lot of other kinds of negativity, but when we are kind to ourselves and see others kindly as well, we enable the positivity within to battle all the negativity that surrounds us.
This article was originally published on Times of India.